Zach and I are divorced. 

I’ve rewritten this many times, so I hope to help you understand this difficult post. I’ll preface by saying it’s been extremely difficult going through this when I grew up never believing in divorce. Like everything in life, the Lord gives and takes away according to His goodness and glory, and sometimes that requires humbling us in ways we didn’t expect.

In January of 2022, shortly after Zach left for deployment, he told me he wasn’t a Christian and didn’t want to be married. I was blindsided and lived in shock for a while. After months of back and forth, Zach decided to come home after deployment. We began counseling upon his return in late October, but by January of 2023, he left for good. It took almost a complete year for our amicable divorce to process with the state. I know this is a short overview of a much bigger story, but I can say confidently that I have a clear conscience before the Lord. My church provided biblical counseling for me as well as endless support through every step of this process.

Both sides of our family have experienced grief and hurt, but we are all on good terms. Zach and I have forgiven the past, and are coparenting well. I plan on writing about my experiences in the future. Going through something like this, I was desperate for solid Christian resources that weren’t there. I hope I can provide resources for women in the future like I wish I would have had. Praise God for His perfect will, and to him be the glory for everything that has happened.

“But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For His sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which comes through faith in Christ, the righteousness from God that depends on faith—that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and may share His sufferings, becoming like Him in His death, that by any means possible I may attain the resurrection from the dead.” Philippians 3:7-11